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Heart-Centered Spaces: Magnetize & Manifest LOVE With Full-Spectrum Feng Shui

“Spread love to the north, kindness to the south, compassion to the east, goodness to the west. Spread love throughout the whole world.“

Matshona Dhliwayo

"Conscious Relationship"

"Sacred Union"

"Divine Partnership"

Whatever you call it, LOVE is a liberating and transformational force that we all want, need - and deserve! .

Each of us is biologically hardwired for connection and belonging which allows us to express the energy of Love in a variety of ways:

  • Physically - touch, closeness, affection, intimacy, generosity.

  • Emotionally - care, empathy. desire. respect, honesty, patience, vulnerability, validation.

  • Mentally - presence, attention, responsive, stimulation, understanding.

  • Spiritually - chemistry. connection, energy. depth.

And whether it's through self-love, romantic love, familial love, platonic love, collective love, environmental or astral love, all relationships are a form of energy alchemy and transfer which can be enhanced and strengthened with intention and mindfulness.

Full-spectrum Feng Shui is a term I use to refer to the energetic alignment and healing that occurs in optimizing our physical spaces, but also focusing on our innermost metaphysical realms too. Read on for an in-depth guide on how to use feng shui holistically to attract healthy relationships and invite love into your life from all directions.

"The feeling of Love is the highest frequency you can emit. The greater the love you can feel and emit, the greater power you are harnessing."

Rhonda Byrne

The Outer Work: Your Spaces

1. Locate Your Guas

Our homes are the physical manifestations to our life, and vice versa. Ancient practitioners of feng shui used the bagua map to interpret areas of our life within the context of our spaces.

Your Partnered Love Gua

To locate the area of your home associated with love and relationships, stand at the entrance of your home, which is the metaphorical/symbolic "Northern" part of your floorpan. From there, your Love Gua is in the rear/-right quadrant of your home (the "Southwest").

Your Self-Love Gua

Diagonally opposite to the Love gua is the Wisdom/Knowledge area, in the "Northeast". This positioning is interesting and meaningful because it symbolizes the heart-brain connection: how our mental health and inner spiritual connections directly influence our ability to attract and maintain healthy, external love. And on the reverse side, that without experiencing deep, soul relationships it is difficult to truly know your self, and life, fully.

In other words, an imbalance in one area correlates to an imbalance in the other, so its important to activate your Wisdom/Knowledge corner in conjunction with the Love/Relationship Gua.

"When we are in a state of heart - brain coherence...we make clearer & better decisions. We can experience elevated emotions such as love, gratitude & compassion... Above all, we create balance. Balance within as well as without, and when coherence occurs on a large enough scale, it’s possible that we create this balance across the entire world. "

Scott Robinson

2. Support Your Spaces

Practical Remedies

It's essential that you feel grounded and safe in your home in order to attract a partnership that will allow the same stability and support.

As discussed, your home's floorplan and layout can greatly influence your love life, as everything in feng shui is a metaphor. For example, having a closet or bathroom in your Love/Relationship or Wisdom/Knowledge gua is generally inauspicious because these rooms generally hold negative Chi in the forms of waste, clutter, or stagnation. So, it's of the utmost importance to incorporate feng shui principles with subtractions and universal enhancements.

Outside of the bagua map, there are two key rooms in the home that strongly influence our relationships: the bedroom, and the Kitchen.

  • The Bedroom is the center of the Divine Feminine/yin energy which is associated with fertility, intimacy, connection, and overall wellbeing. As such, we should create a sanctuary for three primary things: sleep/stillness, serenity, sexuality/sensualiity - which are the cornerstones of healthy relationships.

If your primary bedroom aligns with the Northwest corner of your home, you are in ideal feng shui alignment, but regardless, this room should optimized with identical bedside tables/lamps, sturdy headboard, luxury bed linens and other transcendental cures to preserve the environment of strong relationships.

It's best to avoid distracting, items like mirrors, electronics, or exercise equipment which creates restless (ie. unromantic) energy. Another thing to avoid is sleeping on mattress which holds energy of breakups, divorce, infidelity or relationship conflict. (Tip: If you're not able to replace the mattress altogether, you can put a red sheet below your top sheet to represent protection.)

  • The Kitchen, in contrast, embodies the Divine Masculine. Again, if this room aligns with either of the two Love guas, then you are in overall positive placement. This area innately holds lots of yang energy because it's associated with lots of activity and affiliated with the fire element, so depending on you and your partners personalities and dynamic, you may need to implement remedies to neutralize this intensity.

Other rooms which can help attract love and relationships:

  • Living Room - overall neutral placement but can be optimized with pillows, rugs, two coasters on coffee or side table and other transcendental cures below.

  • Dining Room - overall positive placement optimize with table-setting for two, bowl of fruit: 3, 8, 9 apples (red for love, green for friendship).

It's important to note that no matter what room your Love/Relationship gua falls in, avoid the following as they create energetic resistance or blockages to new love.

  • Clutter or anything that is not loved, used, or needed

  • Remnants and reminders of past relationships

  • Single or solitary furniture, items etc.

Elemental Cures

Because both the Love and Wisdom guas are governed by the Earth element, and it's supporting element of Fire, you can activate these zones by implementing the following elemental cures and remedies:

  • EARTH: crystals, pottery/ceramics, salt lamps, square shapes, yellows and tans.

  • FIRE: candles, lanterns, animal prints, triangular shapes, reds, oranges, peaches, pinks.

You can also add a variety of transcendental, metaphysical or traditional cures to call in romantic partnership. Examples include:

  • Doubles/Pairs of items such as candle sticks, lamps, rose quartz, mandarin ducks, cranes, bamboo stalks, images or amulets of suns or dragons (male), or phoenix or moons (female)

  • Happy, Loving Couples or pairs depicted in artwork, images or photography

  • Living things such as loving pet companions or house plants with heart-shaped leaves, or in pink or peach colored orchids, roses, lotus or peony flowers. You can also look into your dedicated love "totem animal" based on the Chinese zodiac.

  • Comfort & Conveniences for your future partner. Make literal space in your life for them and their belongings!

  • Make room in your closet and leave a few empty hangers, especially specific types (for example if they wear suits or ties)

  • Stock your bathroom with a new toothbrush for them, or contraceptives in your. bedside table.

  • Stock your pantry or fridge with their favorite snacks or drinks.

  • Sleep on the energetic side of your bed, and park on your energetic side of the driveway, reserving the other side for them (Left for Yin/Feminine and Right for Yang/Masculine)

Circular Items to represent harmony and everlasting love such as a round rug, curvy furniture, or mystic knot on doorknob

  • Intentions & Affirmations written as if your ideal partner is already here, sealed in red envelope and placed under pillow or in altar space.

  • Sensory Enhancements like aromatherapy diffuser with aphrodisiac scents (lavender, jasmine, vanilla mint and citrus) or a playing a curated playlist of songs you would enjoy together as a couple.

  • Altar Space can be an extremely powerful tool in manifestation work, even if the altar is not located in your associated Love guas. Create a dedicate spa for mementos and reminders of the two types of sacred love:

  • Self-Love: Gratitude list (27 things), meditation bowl, awards, portraits, astro birth chart, personality test results, light vs shadow lists, resume, mirror.

  • Partnered-Love: list of desired partner and relationship qualities, love notes from past, vision board, empty wine glasses, spare key. As you light two candles in your altar (or one reflected in a mirror), call in a soul whose energy and lifestyle harmonizes completely with yours, whose vision and values align with yours - someone who fits into your life seamlessly. Imagine the full-body feeling of it happening.

  • Whatever YOU Love and cherish emits positive Chi, unique to you and your home. Surround yourself with only the clothes, art, furniture, and housewares that "spark joy" within and elevates your frequency. Every time you keep something you don't love, it lowers your vibration - and your homes frequency. So bring in more of what you love and let go (donate, sell, etc) what you do not. Just because you don't love it doesn't mean someone else won't.

"A house is made of walls and beams. A home is made of love and dreams. "

Ralph Waldo Emerson