Heart-felt Finances: Attract Abundance & Wealth By Aligning With Feminine (Yin) Energy
In the previous blog we discussed how. to use Yang/Masculine energy and the power of Feng Shui to attract full-spectrum abundance and wealth. But did you know that you can also become a money magnet / manifestation machine simply using the power of your mind and heart?
We discussed various ways to align with Source energy, and now it's time to align with Self!
Self-healing is an integral part of attracting and building wealth- incorporating supportive and holistic practices and tools to expand your energetic frequency to one of abundance and love, not scarcity or fear.
“The way we do money, is the way we do everything.”
Kendall Summerhawk
Learning how to trust your inner voice can be difficult when we've be so conditioned to respond to things outside of us. Aligning with Self requires that you surrender the belief that being "logical" is the best way to create success and abundance. Truth is, if reasoning was such an effective tool for creating abundance, most of us wouldn’t be struggling.
Get ready to match the frequencies of wealth through Feminine rituals of receiving, reflection, intuition, healing and celebration. Call in your highest self and magnetically bring more money into your life! .
UNDERSTAND YOUR MONEY RELATIONSHIP
Manifesting money will look different for everyone because we each have a different energetic frequency and wiring, and thus different conditioning about financial concepts.
Having deep self-awareness and acceptance can allow you to
understanding how you think, feel and behave financially.
earn more money based on your natural strengths and unique gifts
overcome money challenges and blockages
UNDERSTAND YOUR MONEY HISTORY
The Money Atom Exercise was developed by financial psychologists Brad and Ted Klontz and Rick Kahler. It is an exercise that you can use to help better understand your conscious and your unconscious beliefs, attitudes and patterns that stem from early childhood – age 7 and before.– even those that are inter-generationally being passed through from parents, grandparents, great-grandparents and so on.
Think back to your family environment and visualize a simple chart or a diagram to represent your family as it were when you were a child.
Take a letter-sized piece of paper and draw a square to represent yourself, place yourself on that piece of paper, where you feel that you fit in your family as a child. The size and the position of the square can reflect your perception of the position that you held in that family system/network.
Once you’ve done that is to then think about using some triangles to represent the significant males into your family system. So again, the size and the position of these triangles can represent the influence and the position that those people held within that environment, those male figures within that environment. Identify the figures by putting their initials inside those triangles.
Use circles to represent females in the system. Again, think about the size, think about the position of those circles on your piece of paper.
Think about representing any nonhuman influences in your life at that time by using rectangles. These might include significant pets, religion, or life events such as moving, divorce illness.
Using either a dotted circle, triangle, or rectangle draw any other influences that were not physically present, but those influences that were felt within the environment. This could include relatives who have passed or events from the past.
Use the pound symbol or X's or other symbols to show the relationship of the characters that are surrounding the conversation around money or wealth. For example, a large pound sign might represent a primary influence or a primary attachment, whereas a small pound sign might represent little attachment. Alternatively you might draw an X to represent a relationship in which the individual didn’t like to talk about money, or they were secretive around money, or there was poverty or lack.
Use arrows to represent the flow of money between the people that are represented in your diagram. Who gave money to whom? Who brought it into your family, who lost it in the family, or who took it from the family? Note: This is a really, really powerful part of the exercise. Money is really about an exchange of flow. It’s about how comfortable we are to receive money, but how comfortable we are to give money. So this could be really, really insightful. Growing up as a child, that seven year old version of yourself, what did you see or feel or hear around money in terms of the flow of money?
Based on the picture that you’ve completed, identify the conscious or unconscious beliefs or attitudes about money that you believe were bought forward from this environment. This is the point in the exercise when you may want to come back to this exercise and just take a little bit of time to digest this picture and this image that you’ve created. What conscious or unconscious beliefs or attitudes about money can you take from the exercise involving how money comes in, stays, or goes.
Determine the degree to which these messages were distorted and how these distortions affected the system. What beliefs are actually true. Examine the degree to which you have internalized these messages and whether you’ve actually acted upon them with little or no conscious awareness throughout the different stages of your life. Identify any emotional, rational, or financial consequences that you have experienced as a result of holding on to that message or internalizing that message.
Reflect on any financial experiences in your life, try and identify what beliefs or attitudes about money or wealth have been gleaned from that family system, and which of those have contributed to your own behaviors.
At the end of the day, if we want to improve our financial wellbeing, we have to start internally before we then go and implement the practical methods to grow, build, and create wealth for yourself. What can you do for yourself right now today to move you one step forward towards the financial life that you want to create for yourself?
“Divine Beloved,
Allow me to give with complete ease and abundance, knowing that You are the unlimited Source of all.
Let me be an easy, open conduit for Your prosperity.
Let me trust that all my own needs are always met in amazing ways and that it’s safe to give freely as my heart guides.
And equally, let me feel wildly open to receiving.
May I know my own value, beauty, and worthiness without question.
Let me allow others the supreme pleasure of giving to me.
May I feel worthy to receive in every possible way.
Change me into one who can fully love, forgive, and accept myself So I may carry Your Light without restriction.
Let everything that needs to go, go. Let everything that needs to come, come.
I am utterly Your own. You are me, I am You, we are One. All is well.”
Tosha Silver
KNOW YOUR ATTACHMENT STYLE
The Attachment Theory of psychology can help you examine the spending and savings patterns that were modeled by your earliest caregivers, thereby shaping your own fears and behaviors around money.
SECURE - positive view of money + self, typically have an adaptive, healthy way of handling money, a sense of self-assurance with finances, strong financial boundaries for themselves and with others.
AVOIDANT - negative view of money + self, an aversion to improvement or development of wealth or self, a denial of reality. Manifests as lack of money management
ANXIOUS - positive view of money vs negative view of self. Low confidence and self-esteem limits their potential with money. Manifests as overspending or overgenerosity.
DISMISSIVE - negative view of money vs positive view of self. Low perceptions about money, closed off to new opportunities for future
UNDERSTAND YOUR MONEY MOTIVATIONS
Why do you desire money? Knowing your values and associations with money is important step in understanding your spending patterns and setting intentions for the future. Within these are different money "personality" archetypes which identify how you think, feel and behave financially.
LOVE- a desire to bring joy, lightness or relief to others or self. You want to spend recreationally and to boost mood or relieve fears or anxieties. The possible downside of this "retail therapy" is that the benefits are often fleeting and can result in frequent over-spending or living outside of one's means.
The Nurturer / Sponsor - Puts others before self.
The Connector / Networker - You put people and relationships first.
FREEDOM - a desire for autonomy and adventure. You want to feel independent and self-sufficient, having many choices, options and opportunities, living on your own terms, unbound by convention. The possible downside of "thrill seeking" motivation is that money could be used as a tool to escape obligation and provide a sense of thrill, rather than a device to enrich their consumer desires.
The Alchemist / Idealist - Transforming situations with money magic.
The Maverick / Rebel - Unpredictable and riskier with money
SECURITY- a desire for safety and protection. You want to feel in complete control and confidence, not worrying about the future, assuring all needs are met. The possible downside of this is minimal risk-taking or spending for enjoyment, focusing on strict budgeting, saving, reducing debt, making investments.
The Accumulator / Banker - You have a natural ability to create financial stability.
STATUS- a desire to impress others. You want to feel admired/envied/respected/recognized, spending on luxuries and top-tier goods and experiences. The possible downside of this value is that it is very superficial and vanity-based.
The Celebrity / Big Shot - Spends money to enhance self-image or status.
The Romantic / Hedonist - Always in pursuit of luxury and comfort
POWER - a desire to influence change. You want to achieve your goals through planning and acting, feeling successful, driven and ambitious. The possible downside of power-seeking is that if morals are not in alignment to the greater good, this could lead to abusive or patriarchal dynamics.
The Ruler / Builder - Thrives on creating, innovating and producing something of value
"We don't create Abundance, because Abundance is always there. We inadvertently create limitations, which need to be dissolved."
ACKNOWLEDGE MONEY TRAUMAS
Personal finances are not just "facts and figures". They come with a lot of emotional baggage. While some people have been privileged to never have to worry about money, many others are used to associating money with stress, a lack of security, and even feelings of unworthiness.
Nearly one in four Americans suffer from PTSD-like symptoms caused by financially induced stress caused by challenging situations such as
Living in poverty - homelessness, evictions, food scarcity, government assistance, unpaid bills
Low or no income- unemployment, underemployment, low wage or inconsistent work
Limited or no savings
Debt - education, medical bills, credit cards, natural disaster and more
Defaults, overdrafts, penalty fees
Divorce
Economic recession
These events can lead to traditional chronic trauma symptoms and responses, such as
anxiety
irritability
hypervigilance
dissociation
negative though patterns
But with added destructive behaviors around money, with a Fight, Flight Freeze or Fawn response:
Avoidance - denial, not opening bills, not looking. at. or discussing finances, self-isolating
Overspending - compulsive spending, dining out, shopping, materialism and consumerism, splurging,
Underspending - avoiding risk, excessively cautious
Poor boundaries - undercharging, underearning, overworking
RECOGNIZE YOUR PATTERNS
Scarcity Mentality is one of the most common money blocks. It is rooted deep in the subconscious, established during childhood and even prior in gestation or absorbed from previous generations who faced hardship, struggle, pain or in chronic "survival mode". We pick up programming from our caretakers in their own money habits and perceptions.
When you have a subconscious lack mentality, You are operating from past programming, not future potential. This thinking influences all of your thoughts, feelings and actions. You carry low-vibration energy when you experience feelings of:
guilt
shame
fear
anxiety
insecurity
doubt
jealousy
suffering
With each of these feelings you emit a lower frequency. You subtly communicate to the Universe that you don't deserve, shouldn't want, or can't possibly have what you desire.
Excessive frugality - You rarely pay full price for things, you only buy off-brand/discounted items, or spend any money outside of necessities/bills
Overall feelings of guilt, shame, fear, or anxiety around money.
Worrying you’ll never have enough money and resources.
Judging or ridiculing other peoples’ spending habits.
Holding conflicting beliefs and philosophies about wealth
Getting highly stressed by unexpected bills and expenses
Needing to reciprocate favors or gifts from others
Another common pattern is simply Money Misalignment. This manifests as "dog paddling" - scrambling or grasping franticly at desires, feeling lost and looking to copy what others are doing, doing what you think you "should" be doing, rather than being true to self.
UNDERSTAND YOUR MONEY CONSCIOUSNESS
Which wealth reality do you find yourself in? What can you do to reach the next level? This idea was originated by Kasey Claytor. Take the quiz!
Level 1: Feelings of blame, apathy, poverty, self-loathing, financial crisis, victim mindset, avoiding responsibility.
Level 2: Feelings of anxiety about money or change, debilitating fear of risks/the unknown, attachment to comfort zone.
Level 3: Feelings of dreaming and fantasy of abundance, envying those with wealth, starting. to welcome desires into your awareness but being held back by self-doubt and overwhelm.
Level 4: Feelings of frustration, anger or regret as you are becoming more aware of the part you play in your own life and financial situation. Coupled with the awareness, motivation and courage to take on new challenges which will help you get your finances in order.
Level 5: Feelings of optimism, relief, hope, self-worth and inspiration. You begin to be proactive and diligent as you are mastering money management through full-spectrum financial planning- budgeting, retirement, building credit and on-going learning and curiosity.
Level 6: Feelings of universal trust, faith and satisfaction as you are beginning to build independence and financial security through mindful, aligned spending, saving and investing. Practicing financial discipline and impulse control.
Level 7: Feelings of acceptance as you forgive yourself for past mistakes or ignorance. Discovering and understanding credit, the cyclical nature of the economy and the market through news and other information sources, You're more comfortable with giving and risk-taking in general.
Level 8: Feelings.of confidence and capability as you employ wisdom , reason, advanced, abstract thinking about economic scenarios, taking greater risks in business and investments. You also are growing a strong sense of purpose and passion, harmonizing your values, desires and actions.
Level 9: Feelings of illumination as you feel great emotional satisfaction and comfort with your life's decisions and priorities, and understanding their associations with money.
Level 10: Feelings of complete self-actualization and abundance as you no longer need anything. Money becomes a natural but subtle means to support your higher purpose and impact in the world, and you feel divinely guided and supported at all times.
Remember that each day you are building subtle momentum towards the next level. For each new level you draw from the knowledge you attained in those previous levels. There is no right or wrong ,
good or bad place to be. All levels have value as you progress on your path to fulfill your deepest desires, so trust that your financial life will follow.
IDENTIFY YOUR CURRENT MONEY STAGE
It's hard to know where you're going if you don't now where you are now. The stages of financial reality below are typical for most people when building wealth.
Financial Difficulty - low income
Financial Basics - paycheck to paycheck, instant gratification
Financial False Comfort - earning more but in debt due. to lifestyle creep, "bougie broke"
Financial Literacy - budgeting, planning, reducing expenses
Financial Intentionality - debtfree, building retirement, emergency funds and investments
Financial Independence - passive income, solid reserves in all areas
Financial Freedom - work is optional, complete control of your time
KNOW YOUR MONEY CODE
What do you like to spend your money on? How do you like to earn your money? These things make up your Authentic Money Code. The clarity you get through your knowing and living in alignment with this code will help you shift into your truest form of identity. and worth. Journal on the following to narrow the core essence of your soul's desire:
What are the top 3-5 things you spend most of your money on? Is this what you authentically WANT to spend it on?
What are the top 3-5 things you are you saving for?
How would you spend your time and your days if you were completely financially secure?
What are your core needs (things, services, activities, etc. that are non-negotiable expenses)?
What tasks or perks motivates you or light you up most in your career? Title, money, perks, teams, work environment, status, freedom
If you had your ideal number in savings and checking, what four things would you invest in?
"Money is essentially a physical expression of victim consciousness. It represents human fear. Our relationship to money is therefore our relationship to fear. There is nothing that reveals a hidden agenda more quickly than the subject of money.
Richard Rudd
LOVE YOUR MONEY / HEAL YOUR MONEY RELATIONSHIP
Money is not just an object or a resource in life. It's a living entity, an energetic being! And our relationship with the being of money reflects our deepest shadows, imprints & conditionings we operate with.
Healing our relationship with money means healing the most wounded aspects of us that influence all parts of our lives.
Practicing shadow work and getting to the root of past traumas and wounds around money is crucial in reprograming and writing new future of abundance and wealth. Before we can begin to move forward, we must forgive and accept responsibility for our past circumstances (out of our control), and our choices (in our control), both conscious or unconscious.
From here, we can make decisions from a place of truth and authenticity. We are the authors of our own stories.
PRACTICE FAITH & TRUST
When you are truly connected to Divine Source, your Creator, you naturally let go of control and trying to force the outcome of your life. You begin to embody the energy of abundance WITHIN, which inspires trust, faith and accepting the unknown.
GET REAL
If your money goal is to ‘not have to think about money’ you are never going to be wealthy. You can’t run away from money and towards it ~ at the same time.
Stop running from your relationship with money. Own it!
Become a compassionate, loving partner with your money. Think of it as your co-creator.
Think about it every day.
Ask it questions.
Write love letters.
Bring flowers.
Set boundaries.
Make requests.
ACCEPT YOUR SHADOWS & SCARS
It's time to be honest and acknowledge how you ACTUALLY feel about money. This is about being fully transparent and owning any fear, anger and resentment you've built up about money from your past experiences.
Try as you may to separate and release them, also love and befriend them. Your deepest fears and insecurities are an important part of you, and only toxic if you let them hold you back. This step is essential because it draws attention to the internal demons that hinder your progress. The only way to overcome the shadow of doubt in your mind is to identify it first, acknowledge its existence, and undo it with compassion and love.The love you show this emotion returns to you and opens your heart to receive.
Most are surprised to know that the deeper your money wound, the greater liklihood that you are destined for wealth. You must do your part to heal and allow abundance to flow to you. The universe wants you to succeed in this lifetime! Then you can use your wisdom to help others.
One of the first steps to resolving this trauma is to simply be vulnerable and talk about it. You can be open about your insecurities with those around you, or a trusted professional .
Aligned Action: Write a "Hate letter" to money and then BURN it!
SELF-CARE & COMPASSION
Find ways that you can self-soothe. If you notice that you respond to money situation with anxiety, give yourself the grace of acknowledging that response, stepping away to calm your nervous system down, and returning to your finances once you've arrived at a more emotionally regulated place
Separate yourself from the story/narrative you have built around money to remove the shame, blame and guilt. For instance, if you've gone through a phase of overspending instead of beating yourself up, celebrate the fact that your life is so full of activities and adventures appealing to your passions and desires.
REVISIT, THEN RELEASE THE PAST
It's important to revisit your “money traumas”, any moments or chapters in your life that you experienced a particularly stressful or negative event with money. Each of these has left a shadowy imprint on your auric field, stored in your body and influencing your energy moving forward.
Aligned Action: Look at your money reality at age 7 and under. This was when your most dominant beliefs were established, likely leaving you stuck subconsciously. Who was modeling money (and thus work, savings, spending) for you? What choices and patterns are. you replicating now as an adult? Visualize a new childhood with money mentors living in abundance, the way that you desire yourself.
Aligned Action: Make a list of money traumas from your life and rate how upsetting each memory still is for you in the present moment on a scale of 0-10. Start with the most triggering events and use an energetic process to release. them from your memory field. EFT, Hooponopono, burn/release letter, hypnosis, or reiki are particularly effective. The goal is to get the triggers number as close to zero as possible..You want a feeling of neutrality in your body when you think of this event. Of course, this work will be on going - t’s not going to happen all at once.
The energetics of abundance, resonating with universal love and light, involves both manifesting/attracting AND surrendering/offering. There are various spiritual and somatic practices that can support you in finding closure and completion from the past and heal our money wounds and scars so that we can move forward with success.
JOURNAL about your past money traumas - how you are feeling, what triggered the feeling, and your thoughts as you experience the stress.The more specific, the better.
VISUALIZE (or literally re-enact) shedding former layers of your self and subsconscious so that you can fully step into the next chapter of your life - completely cleansed, refreshed, renewed and resolved.
EXHALE and detach from the old: limiting beliefs, past conditioning, negative self talk, stress/worry, myths/illusions about poverty, scarcity or lack, survival mode, past stories, patterning, ego/lower self.
INHALE and embody the new: positive self talk, dreaming and doing, abundance consciousness, thrive mode, self-worth, financial wealth identity, higher self,
OFFER foods and gifts to your ancestors who may have had struggles with money, extending forgiveness and compassion.
PRACTICE E.F.T or Tapping to process and release negative narratives
REPEAT AFFIRMATIONS about a healthier, more productive past which will align with your desired future.
REWIRE YOUR CONDITIONING
It's imperative to rewire your mental patterns and habitual thoughts - any that carry doubts, shame or guilt, or imply struggle or fears.
Free your mind of any negative, unhelpful or limiting thoughts that conflict with your desire such as...
"you do not deserve this life"
"none of your family members live luxuriously, why should I?"
"you are fine and have enough already - why are you still not satisfied?"
Our conditioning likely tells us that we should accept the bare minimum, limiting ourselves and shying away from appreciating and loving money so as not to appear garish or extravagant. Rid your mind of these self-defeating thoughts and convince yourself that you are worthy of the best, grandest things in life.
Repeatedly write or say to yourself that opposite of the belief you hold. Affirm that you have let go of limiting thoughts for good. Do this frequently, until you feel less and less resistance in your unconsciousness.
LIGHTEN UP
We're conditioned to take money way too seriously. We fixate on it, measure our worth from it and create the narrative that its difficult to acquire keep or manage. Tapping into the mystical and magical opens the playful, feminine side of money. It opens us to the LIGHTNESS of abundant energy, and thus greater freedom and flow. Expirement and explore to find the money rituals that are right for you. What feels most true, aligned and FUN?
TREAT MONEY AS A PERSON
Money responds to the way you relate to it. The deeper, more fulfilling and more sustaining your relationship with money, the greater its presence & support will be in your life, just like a relationship with a person will be.
Our relationship with money is like any other important relationship in life. Scarcity mindset can show up in similar ways as our relational patterns based on our attachment styles. Think of someone you love and how you interact with them. If you exhibit behaviors of control/manipulation, avoidance, anxiety then the relationship would surely suffer and end. Start treating your relationship with money like a relationship with someone you deeply care about, showing it attention and care - as well as
Trust
Respect
Honor
Celebration
Sharing
Gratitude
Intimacy
Connection
Safety
Practice using your primary/dominant Love Language, but also venture into other, less familiar languages to activate new energy pathways!
WORDS OF AFFIRMATION - speak positively, gratefully, hopefully and respectfully about money to yourself and others, no matter how "little" you have
PHYSICAL TOUCH - write your financial goals down, touch money or credit cards lovingly, dance or walk eight times in a figure 8 in the wealth or health guas of your home
ACTS OF SERVICE - help someone in need, make a financial donation, act quickly to pay bills, holding gratitude for the utilities and service providers that help support your life.
QUALITY TIME - schedule weekly or monthly money dates to review spending and savings
GIFTS - set a money savings goal and when you achieve it, splurge on something special for yourself or a loved one.
Similarly to the above you can communicate with the Spirit of Money. Start a conversation and let it know how you plan to welcome it specifically for good.
"Money, if you come to me, you will become anything and everything we want on the menu! You will become the delicious wine we drink, the incredible food we eat, the appreciation we give our server, and the host of the celebration we are having. We are going to have so much fun and I am excited you are on your way to join us!"
Practice loving money UNCONDITIONALLY - without expectation, pressure, conditions, timelines. Love it for the sake of loving! Appreciate it for all it is, even if you don't feel it's yours.
"Unconditional love is tuning yourself to the frequency of love, not looking for conditions to change. I love the feeling of loving you and how you feel about me is irrelevent.”
Abraham Hicks
RE-PATTERN & RE-PROGRAM
Your ability to call in money depends on the capacity of your receiving. The more you be open and comfortable with receiving, the more you can call in & hold.
Money responds to your energy. If you desire more but your body feels uncomfortable or unsafe with more of it then it will flee, naturally feeling your rejection or resistance. So it's imperative to address any unresolved trauma stored in the body.
Notice what you feel and think when you receive money. Are you momentarily happy and grateful but then fall into a feeling of disappointment in "this still isnt enough..."? If so, that is your dysfunctional pattern of lack showing up and when you feel lack, the universe brings you more lack. Thankfully you have the power and ability to write a completely new pattern.
Work on creating a new inner dialogue when you receive money, of any amount. Simply ACKNOWLEDGE IT : "This is money, this is evidence that abundance is available. I am grateful for this and know that more is always on the way"
Then, think of all the ways to spend that amount of money, as if you already had all of your other needs and wants met. Energetically, projecting that sense of "overflow' and "enoughness" has the power to turn $50 into $5000, and the universe responds accordingly. THAT is abundance.
Eventually this will be your automatic thought process when you receive money and you'll be well on your way to a life of inner and outer prosperity. When you feel abundant, the universe will bring you more abundance. The feeling must come first though... then the reality changes around that.
REFRAME MONEY
The uncomfortable truth is, you will create a simple and peaceful relationship with money once you stop * seeing money as simply a solution to your problems. Where you see something to fix, the Universe see something to fillIf you've identified money as a gap in your life instead of a resource that is here to co-create with you, you will continue to attract problems for money to solve. Instead of waiting for money to solve an external problem, go inward and become the vessell that money is waiting to circulate through. Money will always meet you where you are.
TRANSMUTE NEGATIVE TO POSITIVE
All our lives, we've by told by parents, teachers and financial “gurus” to save our pennies, to avoid waste, to scrimp and be as simple, saavy and frugal as possible. There is a very widespread limiting belief about money that you have to save it in order to be prosperous.
But of course we need to spend money in order to live in our modern society. And when we do we need to feel good about it. When we feel badly (nervous, scared, guilty, regretful) about spending money, we project feelings of lack out into the universe, which brings us more reasons to feel lack.
To manifest more money, we need to be projecting feelings of positivity and abundance, even when it is leaving our hands.
To release negative associations around spending, aim to focus on all the longterm, global good that comes from it: supporting businesses, boosting the economy, and of course helping you be your best self. You're contributing to the financial health of humanity, and that's something to celebrate!
Similar to high-vibe spending: GIVING! Being generous with money, even/especially when you feel don’t have much, can boost your vibration and make you feel deserving of it coming back around even bigger.
LOVE YOURSELF / HEAL YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH SELF
Money is a mirror to yourself.
Money is an energy that is completely neutral (neither good or bad), so it reflects whatever the frequency you`re holding is, and there are two ends of the spectrum.
HIGH FREQUENCY: abundance mindset, self-love, self-acceptance
LOW FREQUENCY: scarcity mindset, victimhood
Money is the currency of self-worth! Practicing self-love, self-trust, compassion and understanding your own value is the #1 key in attracting abundance. You must whole-heartedly believe you deserve success, greatness and fabulosity. You must feel worthy to be wealthy!
Love and money are always connected in the manifestation process. This is because both are tied to our sense of security and our earliest attachments, and also our life experience and desires/visions of the future. Typically when we are blocked in one area, we can have a very similar block in the other. And the one you’re more desperate for/insecure about will be the one that usually presents you with more tests.
When you begin to set and hold high standards in love and relationships, you will no longer settle for what doesn’t serve you. You learn how to give love (or money) properly, and how to receive love (or money) and both parts of your life will begin to feel in flow and abundance. As you step into your worth and deservingness around security in one area, it allows you to build your trust and confidence muscle in the other.
If you subconsciously believe that you don't deserve money, or can't be trusted with money especially BIG money, you'll keep feeling stuck with the struggle of lack or only have "just enough - not excess.
NURTURE YOUR BODY
Wealth and health are nearly impossible to separate. Your money-attracting abilities are directly tied to your personal energy, your health! Of course, healthcare costs money, and making money is a lot easier and simpler when you're healthy. Prioritize preventative medicine and healthy habits like a balanced diet, exercise, or sleep.
RELAX & RELEASE
Obsessing and focusing on making a specific, exact amount of money could actually be blocking you from making money in the first place. This is because you are focused on the abundance of recieving instead of giving, of SERVICE. Once you've stated your desire, then it's important let that desire go and permit abundance into your life, and whatever the universe dictates as the highest good. This act of detachment frees your energy field of any resistance caused by doubt or contradicting beliefs. Meditation, breathwork, hypnosis or other mindfulness exercises can greatly support you in creating that vibration of ease.
LEAN IN
Are you a impulsive shopper?
Chronic overtipper?
Do you procrastinate on paying bills?
Whatever your bad money habits are, stop shaming yourself. If you're genuinely doing the best you can but still not able to meet the textbook version of wealthy then that's ok! Accept your imperfections, your shortcomings and messiness and call in a financial situation that allows you to flow as yourself. Don't force what doesnt fit!
BOOST YOURSELF UP
Be your own best friend and cheerleader. We must learn to treat ourselves with compassion, patience and encouragement. Loving and nurturing self- talk and daily mirror affirmations go a long way! Motivational playlists, books and podcasts are a great source for positivity too!
I deserve good things
I am important and I matter
I have so much to offer
I am allowed to make mistakes because I am learning from them
I believe in myself
PRACTICE OPENING & EXHALING THE BODY
You will only receive what you feel safe to receive. And feeling safe is an inside job, but can be practiced somatically. Using deep tissue massage, yoni egg, pelvic floor exercises or other feminine healing practices, you can begin to heal your nervous system so that it softens, opens, releases and trusts more. Stop holding tension in the body. Aim to move through life with an open heart and surrendered body so you can manifest what you're meant to.
INHALE ABUNDANCE
Diffuse or inhale high-vibe scents that are associated with wealth and prosperity: citrus, cinnamon, rosemary and frankincense, myrrh, patchouli, palo santo, sandalwood, rose.
INVEST IN YOURSELF
Our mind will always try to convince us that the state of life/happiness/future is determined by the state of our bank account. We are conditioned to believe that if we have money to pay for our basic needs of food, shelter and entertainment, we are content.
From that perspective it makes sense to think that we need to prioritize these basic needs, and cut back on 'luxury' things like coaching or self-development work. But then we stay in a cycle of stress, just enough, and living paycheck to paycheck. For the rest of our lives, exhausted and in survival mode - not THRIVING mode.
When we're operating from that place, then we're missing a key truth: that the better we understand ourselves and the more we work on our internal processes, the more likely it is that we will have that money for the basic needs but also so much more!
KNOW YOUR WORTH
You may be subconsciously, energetically limiting or blocking your money magnetism by not stepping into your individual worth. You may be holding onto apologetic, small, "inferior" energy if you are..
Staying in a relationship mostly to be financially secure
In a job with a low-authority title, or one that is treating you poorly or keeping you stuck or stagnant
Supported by or dependent on family money or spousal support
From a family of immigrants who carry philosophies from original society or culture
Surrounded by a friend or family group of people who live in lack and suffering
Are living in secrecy or dishonesty about a lifestyle, a relationship, etc
Are accepting and settling for projects that aren't fulfilling or serving you
Playing small. or shrinking yourself in front of others
All of these scenarios describe an energy of self-suppression, settling or insecurity. It's time to step into your power and magnetism! It's time to be SEEN!
In order to expand our wealth, we must widen our perception of our own value and stewardship. We must expand our understanding of WHY we are in relationship with money in the first place.
Money is simply a form of exchange. And you are what makes that exchange valuable…aka YOU are the abundance that money is waiting to circulate, multiply and move through the world.
Money cannot be big and powerful without you being big and powerful first.
"Go into your heart and find the thing that you really, really, really love and want to express in this life time. That is going to be the thing that brings you the most money."
Erin Lyons
GROUND IN SAFETY
It's important to regulate your nervous system so that we can be in tune with our intuition, as well as the voices of our spirit team. Being in nature, or simply repeating affirmations in a calm state creates an energy of peace for us to receive the messages, signs, and opportunities we're meant to .
AFFIRM BY DESIGN
The Human Design and Gene Keys systems can teach us many valuable lessons about our capacity, our birthright, to attract abundance. We're all here to FEEL wealthy, regardless of the actual amount in your bank account. It reminds us that
that we each came here with a unique, blueprint - a very distinct frequency that allows us to feel and receive abundance in our own way.
to invest in our selves: learning, growing, developing and doing the things that light us up -supporting our energy and feeding our soul.
LOOK TO THE SKIES
There are several astrological placements that indicate if you are destined for abundance in this lifetime. Look at these clues to discover where you can leverage your skills, talents and resources- and of course, your karmic fortune.
Jupiter House and/or Sign - where you natural abundance lies
Venus House and/or Sign - how/where you earn money
Taurus & Scorpio placements - how you attract and manage money
The 2nd House - how you make money
The 8th House - how others help you make money
Late-degree - Cancer "the millionaire degree"
Asteroids Abunduntia or Fortuna
Nearly everyone has at least one of these placements, so the trick is to look for the quantity of these indicators.
LIVE IN THE END
A common limiting belief is that you must must "get rich" in order to be financially free... to be able to live/be/do what you want, when you want, how you want. And in order. to get rich you have to work hard. You then put all your energy into making as much money as possible, but this masculine approach actually creates the opposite of what you want: stress, exhaustion, and a lack of time. When you're burned out energetically you stop attracting new opportunities and instead attract stagnation and stillness.
So what if we reverse-engineered this. Focusing on freedom and fulfillment FIRST? Remember all of the areas of your life where you already are wealthy (health, family, career, etc). See what magic unfolds when you "live in the end", with the feeling of complete security and enough-ness because you have begun to define success YOUR way, around YOUR values.
No sacrifice or struggle necessary!
CHANNEL YOUR INNER CHILD
PLAY money games for abundance - finding coins, cashing checks
DANCE or sing along to a playlist of Yang (empowering, energizing, high-vibe) songs about wealth and abundance. Activate even more feminine energy by doing this in the mirror!
IMAGINE whatever color you most associate with wealth and visualize it washing over your body, and through every part of you. Gently and compassionately, it even settles over the parts of you still in resistance.
DECORATE your community and the world with symbols of wealth such as coins, or $1 origami butterflies, each anointed with essential oils and intention or prayer.
CONNECT WITH SPIRIT & HIGHER SELF
Spirit, universal wisdom, does not worry about money - so why should you?
LISTEN TO INTUITION. It's time to getting out of your head and into your embodied wisdom. We all have a unique way of making decisions, and connecting to our intuition, our true inner knowing. What does that sacred "yes" feel like to you in your body? Your mind will limit you, your heart however, has the ability to open up to what is truly possible and attract that into your life.
OPEN TO RECEIVING EFFORTLESSLY. Position yourself to receiving without earning, hustling, grinding and every other masculine action that society has conditioned us to think is required of building wealth. Release yourself from the pressure around money, in order to manifest. So if strict and formal budgeting and some other masculine money practices actually creates a lot of stress and tension in your body, then skip it! Lean into the flow, the energetics and embodiment instead: Energetically saving, spending, investing, and receiving.
DENY EGO. Pay attention to when you feel a strong desire for money or material possessions. What triggers these desires? Is it a need for status, validation, security, or something else? Are your desires driven by a genuine need or by ego-driven wants? Before every purpose, ask yourself "Would I still buy this if no one else knew?"
ASK FOR SUPPORT. Solicit your higher power - your spirit guides, angels and ancestors for support, guidance, inspiration, wisdom, focus and clarity. Ask what steps are needed to recieve your desire and LISTEN. Avoid using the word "want" as that embodies a feeling of lack. And do not be desperate, impatient or expectant as each carry scarcity energy that can work against you. Practice true heart-centered gratitude and appreciation and eventually you'll be able to call upon it on demand. This sends signals to the universe, which in turn delivers" more abundance to your life. It'll feel like you're receiving rather than earning. Thank them for
wealth in the fastest, highest timeline possible.
barriers to your success be removed.
meeting all of your needs (even if deep down you do not feel they're met yet.)
Disprove those meanings… gather evidence from your life that helps you see the opposite.
"Be mindful of your self-talk — it’s a conversation with the universe"
d.j.lees
VIBRATE WITH WEALTH
You've probably tried the countless strategies recommended for “getting in alignment” and "changing your mindset” on your journey to manifest the life you desire. But it's important to remember that there is no single "frequency of money" or "frequency of the Quantum". There is no-one-sized-fits-all way to manifest abundance.
Instead, we each carry our own personal "wealth frequency" - unique to us and only us. Once you crack that code, the world of opportunity and abundance opens. You can then create your reality, your vision of prosperity in your own special, heart-centered way.
WANTING, NOT NEEDING
When you “need” money, it actually doesn’t like to be around you much. The desperate energy repels it from you. It’s a matter of embodying “I want you, but I don’t need you. I've got plenty of other options and sources. of happiness.” With this energy, YOU are the prize. Money will feel special and lucky to be around you.
CREATE A MONEY MOON JOURNAL OR "GRIMOIRE"
Writing, through journaling, lettering, scripting and spell-binding with the lunar cycles, is a powerful manifestation tool. It challenges us to go inward and be brutally honest with our selves. Establishing clarity/truth and authenticity/acceptance about our past, present and future, our full-spectrum desires. and is one of the key foundations of full-spectrum wealth creation.
List of light (strengths, talents, skills) vs shadows (flaws, imperfections, weaknesses)
List of limiting beliefs and then their abundance alternatives
Letters of forgiveness for old money patterns.
Gratitude lists
Wishlists lists- manifestation bagua (I AM, I HAVE, I FEEL)
EFT Tapping Scripts
Money mantras & prayers
Financial goals
Affirmations of self-worth and compassion
Future "to-do" lists (as if you have already achieved your wealth goal- what are you doing, buying, etc?)
"By (date) I will have $(amount) in my possession which will come to me in various ways. In return for this money I will share and serve the public with my gifts of (insert contribution). My belief and faith is so strong that now I can see this money safely in my account. It is now awaiting transfer to me at the time and proportion that I deliver my service first. I am awaiting for inspired and achievable action steps by which to accumulate this money and will follow those steps in order to receive"
BECOME ONE WITH MONEY
Go into the place where YOU are the source of the Energy of abundance and prosperity. You are the source of Money Energy everywhere in your experience, the world and in the entire Universe.
There is no money apart from you. So if you wait for the money, the money is going to wait for you too.
Bentinho Massaro
RAISE YOUR WEALTH CEILING
Write various levels of money that you're interested in manifesting onto a piece of paper. Using a dowsing pendulum, see which level has the most noticeable reaction. This is likely the level that you're currently attracting, or just above. So keep working (through EFT, inner child and shadow work) on breaking down the inner blocks to those higher levels.
"You don't have to think about money to let money in. You just can't tink of lack of money to let money in."
Abraham
BE YOUR WEALTHIEST SELF
Be the person you aspire to be - live with expectancy and assumption that it's already happened, today - not in some distant unknown future.
Create a "mock" /fantasy bank statement or money management spreadsheet to depict the bottom line of what your desired checking, savings, and investment accounts will look like. Even write itemized "wish lists" of items or opportunities you've spent on. When you can mentally grasp the big picture of the amount of wealth you're manifesting, that amount - which previously felt unfathomable or intimidating, feels much more natural and practical. It also shows the universe how responsible and ready you are!
Feel wealthy from the inside, out! Picture a specific image or something you associate with great wealth and complete execution. It can be something tangible, experiential or material - or simply a feeling of inner safety and warmth. Get very specific with your vision, and embrace it as a full-body sensory experience inside of you. Hold and carry that feeling throughout your day and these thoughts will begin to translate to your physical reality. Envisioning the goals creates a space for you to enjoy the emotional benefits of success without having to wait for the reality of it.
Don't limit yourself - dream big! What do you want, what would your life look like once you're thriving in abundance, well beyond 'survival mode"? Adopt the inner dialogue of your future self - would they be consumed with thoughts of worry, stress, or ones of peace and privilege? Adopt all of their thoughts of ease and joy, and of course- gratitude!
You’ve got to BECOME wealthy first, then the money shows up. What tiny actions make you feel like a millionaire?
What can you going to purchase or experience to become the “wealthiest” version of yourself?
Buy one name brand or designer clothes items you’d actually prefer.
Shop at "the fancy grocery store" once a month.
Get spa treatments at more regular intervals.
Say YES to small side items and upgrades at restaurants
You don’t have to go in debt or buy a Range Rover to act as if. Just start where you are. You’ll be amazed at how when you do this in the energy of trust, the money shows up to support you.
SUPERCHARGE YOUR WALLET
Obtain something of value- such as a $100 bill or rare coin, and keep it in your wallet or purse. Feel pleased that it is there, and remind yourself often of the added sense of security that it brings to you. As you move through your day, take note of the many things that you could purchase with that hundred dollars - dinner at a nice restaurant, a new blouse from a boutique.
By holding the item of value and not spending it right away, you receive the vibrational advantage of it every time you even think about it. So you can mentally spend that money dozens of times a week, thus multiplying its value tenfold.
Each time you acknowledge that you have the ability and power or to do this or that, you repeatedly add to your sense of financial well-being, security, safety, freedom. Eventually your point of attraction begins to shift and the Universe responds to the vibration you have achieved by matching it with manifested abundance.
Remember, you do not have to actually be abundant in order to attract abundance, but you do have to FEEL abundant. You do need to remove any feelings of resistance or lack.
RELEASE WITH THE MOON
Each month, you can use the Full Moon to channel an energetic release of what is holding you back from your wealth potential
Limiting beliefs and scarcity mindset
Curses and contracts from past lives
Upper limit ceilings to my income and bank account balances
Obstacles and challenges in my way of pure financial freedom and abundance
Anxieties and fears around money
Shame that you're behind where you're supposed to be
Living paycheck to paycheck - having just enough, not more than enough
Declutter and resell unwanted items from the past
The urgency for security tomorrow
Whatever hidden benefits you gain from staying where you are
FOCUS ON PLEASURE & POSITIVE, OVERLOOK LACK
When most people think or talk about money are coming at it from a shortage consciousness, wanting to fix or overcome their situation or circumstance. This aspiration is just adding momentum to it and its influence . So avoid engaging in any inner (or outer) dialogue that focuses on lack, what’s missing, the negative circumstances, the misfortunes of the past, the opinions of others, or anything you dislike or resent. Instead focus on whatever makes you feel good, free, wealthy, abundant - even if its just in your imagination.
Visualizing a new car in order to get a new car is actually practicing the vibration of not having a new car. However visualizing a new car because it feels good to think about- that’s a clearer signal communicating to the universe what you like, and that’s how you attract more good-feeling things!
"If you spend your time thinking about what's missing, then that's what expands in your life. Monitor and match you thoughts to what you want and intend to create."
Dr. Wayne Dyer
BELIEVE IN YOUR SUCCESS
Know that you have more an enough for your heart's desires, and that you'll be overflowing to share this abundance when called to. Know you have everything you need and are taken care of, and that everything beyond that is icing on the cake. Trust that the flow of money will always come and go exactly when and how it needs to. Don't think about the journey (the 'how'), just the destination (the 'what' and 'why'). Plant the seeds of your desired feeling and water them without obsessing or fixating on when or how they will grow. Your job is simply to keep your mindset and income channels open.
PRACTICE POVERTY
This sounds counter-intuitive but it can actually help increase your vibration towards wealth. There is a meditation technique based in Stoicsm called "Negative Visualisation". Here you're supposed to think about the most negative thing that can happen to us.
You can practice the art of intentional Deprivation through
Self Isolation to practice losing loved ones
Monthly Fasting to practice hunger
Camping or Backpacking to practice losing shelter
How does this help us?
Practicing restraint and discipline
Building resilience and tolerance
Less temptation, less distraction
If we take care of our bodies by working out in the gym, why don’t we do the same for mind and hearts? We should strengthen our mental fortitude and survive a catastrophe when it happens. Clarity comes from contrast. Absence leads to greater appreciation. So do this consciously, knowing that nothing in our lives is permanent or guaranteed.
STRENGTHEN BOUNDARIES
If those around you are negative or limiting about money, you can still manifest money but it will take some extra work to protect your energy from their projections. Remember that it’s not your job to change other people's perceptions and views around money. The most impactful thing you can do is to BE THEIR EXAMPLE, which will inevitably invite curiosity and intrigue, and perhaps judgement, from others.
Keep conversations about money to a minimum with people who are not in the same mindset with you. Don’t tell then your big goals, don’t try to convince people, don’t correct them. Find other people on the same journey as you and immerse yourself with programming about abundance.
FACE YOUR TESTS & TRIGGERS
Be prepared that when you're manifesting money, when you're actively upleveling, you will be tested and triggered. You will be given opportunities and scenarios designed to throw you off so you'll resort back to old patterns and safety. This is the universe asking you instead to show up as the highest, most abundant version of yourself.
You're going to need to go through the full process: honoring/accepting the present, feeling through the heaviness, then disproving that narrative, grounding in safety, asking your spirit team for support, and affirming a new reality.
CREATE SACRED SPACES
Creating sacred spaces and altars is a powerful way to call in Feminine energy. You can add a variety of transcendental, metaphysical or traditional cures to call in more money. Altar space can be an extremely powerful tool in manifestation work. Consider the following in the wealth gua of your home, or in individual rooms where you spend the most time:
ACTIVATE YOUR MONEY BOWL. Fill a Metal, ceramic or wood bowl with the items below that resonate most. Make sure to nourish feed or rearrange your money bowl regularly - constantly adding new additions so it's energy doesn't fall stagnant.
Salt or rice as the base
A central gold, green or purple candle etched with a money sigil and anointed with an essential oil that. you associate with abundance
Crystals of citrine, pyrite, amethyst- charged under new moons and full-moons.
Other accents:
Chinese gold coins or mystic knots
Cinnamon stick rolled in glitter or wrapped in red string
Bay leaves with abundance-related words in gold pen
A money butterfly, small round mirror, pearls, sand dollar, wallet or credit card.
Light the candle weekly and call in your wealth by focusing deeply on the intention and feeling of money arriving
IMPLEMENT TRADITIONAL WEALTH CURES
Animals: Jade money frog/three-legged toad or "dragon turtle/tortoise" statues, goldfish bowl, artwork depicting dogs, cats, or horses
Symbols: gemstone tree, bonsai tree, clear vase filled with gold painted acorns, money management books, laughing buddha statue,
CREATE A WEALTH VASE: This should be a solid/ceramic container stored out of sight. Fill with symbolic items of wealth and prosperity:
Business cards, unused lotto tickets, a faux check for. large sum, copy your credit score (either your existing score if it's strong, or one you're working towards, etc),
Glitter, magnets, foreign coins or cash
Salt, dried rice or lentils, glitter, cinnamon, rosemary
BUILD AN ABUNDANCE FOLDER OR WALL.
Desires: Vision board of images or graphics of your future life,
Gratitudes: Keep a list or photo collage of all the things that are working in your favor. Add to it weekly. Whenever something triggering comes up look at the board to snap your thoughts back into a more productive cycle. The vibration of Gratitude is a powerful attractor.
PRACTICE MANIFESTATION RITUALS. Create rituals that involve the earth elements, moon cycles, the seasons and other rhythms of nature.
Ignite all stove burners in your kitchen for 9 minutes each week while meditating on the abundance coming to you.
Anoint your finger with cinnamon, rosemary or peppermint oil and trace a figure 8 on your credit or debit card
CHOOSE WISELY. When furnishing and decorating your home, don't forget to fill it with whatever YOU value, love and cherish. These special items, clothes, art, furniture, and housewares that "spark joy" emit powerfully positive Chi that is perfectly vibrationally aligned to you. Every time you keep something you don't fully align with, it lowers your vibration - and your homes frequency. So bring in more of what you love and let go (donate, sell, etc) what you do not.
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Erin is a certified feng shui consultant, energy healer, wellness coach and holistic growth strategist.
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