The Ultimate Guide to Attracting & Manifesting Your Desires (Part I: Clarify, Ask, Align)

Today Manifestation is an overused buzzword that most have heard through the lens of social media and reality television. It's often misunderstood and oversimplified.

Manifestation involves the universal Law of Attraction ('like attracts like') but the process goes far beyond the simple "Ask, Believe, Receive." that we learned from The Secret. We also must Clarify, ALIGN, and ACT.

In between each of those steps there is a microcosm of more subtle activity.

Sound complicated? It doesn't have to be!

What is Manifestation?

At its core, the concept is about taking something that is immaterial (such as an idea, a vision, a dream, a feeling, a desire) and making it concrete, material, and visible.

Manifestation is simply the Physical Embodiment of your Will. When there is a will, there is a way! When there is a desire, there is a path.

It is identifying a desire, experiencing it through your senses, and then creating that in your 3d world.

As a powerful, sacral energetic being, you can tap into your fullest potential by putting what you want out in the world and attracting it like a magnet.

In other words, manifestation is our way of transforming fantasy into reality using our minds, bodies and spirits.

To activate the energy of manifestation:

CLARIFY what you want.

VISUALIZE your desire with focus and intention

EMBODY your desire as if you've already received it

ACT in inspiration towards your goals

RELEASE attachment to your desire

RECEIVE what you want, or something even better.

How does Manifestation work?

Manifestation occurs as a result of Energy Alchemy - shifting the vibrational frequencies in you and around you through the unification of opposing energies. Neither Yin/feminine or Yang/masculine can flourish without the other and bother are equal parts of a whole.

You can create a measurable, palpable movement of energy- either a TRANSFER or TRANSFORMATION, which serve as the catalyst to achievement, success, and whatever you desire.

Most people don't realize that we are manifesting all the time. You are manifesting every time you are...

  • Listening and following your intuition

  • Playing and experiencing pleasure

  • Saying yes to something... or no to something

  • Speaking your desires outloud

  • Praying, grounding or meditating

  • Visualizing or daydreaming

  • Earning money or spending money

  • Being joyful and happy

  • Doing work that energizes you

  • Understanding and integrating your shadows

  • Feeling and accepting your emotions

  • Facing your fears and taking inspired action

  • Researching, learning and expanding your mind

  • Practicing gratitude and holding the frequency of love

All of these things are you DOING THE WORK and stepping into your highest potential.

Remember, manifestation looks different for everyone because everyone has a different energetic vibration. Your manifestation style is all your own. Pay attention to any patterns in your life of how you have manifested in the past - those can be clues to your future success too!

Manifestation & Self-Healing

For most people the manifestation process is much easier said than done, This is primarily due to our human wiring and social conditioning. The movement of energy in our bodies (and therefore our behaviors) occur out of habit, comfort or familiarity. As our subconscious tries to protect us from emotional pain or fear we tend to go through life in a more limited and constricted way, rarely living up to our full potential.

This patterning establishes our narrow beliefs and perceptions which ultimately hold us back from TRULY living and attracting what we're meant to.

Many do not realize that Manifestation is a by-product of the de-conditioning process. As such, it is a sacred act that can't be manipulated or rushed. The only way out is through...

We all have parts (not ALL) of ourselves that carry these wounds or blocks. And if we have not done the essential inner work to heal these parts, then it while begin to impact our whole.

Without self-healing we usually end up being, doing, saying or acting in ways that go against our natural rhythms and energy flow. This manifests into circumstances that leave us drained, depleted and dissatisfied.

If you've spent years pining for something but always feel like you're coming up short, then it's likely that you're living in a state of victimhood. It's time to take full responsibility and ownership of your life. It's time to step into your power.

Once you are connected with yourself, your desires, your intuition, and your purpose then you can manifest much more easily and consistently. With patience and practice anyone can master the art of manifestation and learn how to create from a place of limitless possibility and potential.

Self-Illumination, Self-Understanding, Self-Healing and Self-Mastery are the cornerstones of the Manifestation.

There are several Key Foundations that are universal to the manifestation process, but HUNDREDS of methods and techniques within those. Remember, your specific manifestation process will be unique to you and likely to involve a lot of trial and error.

Ready to align with your truth and attract omnipotent abundance? Let's get started!


What can you manifest? Anything really!

  • Material Items or Possessions: A new house, car, clothing, financial savings .... What do you aspire to own, borrow or possess?

  • Long-term Opportunities: A promotion, friendships, relationships, business connections... What do you aspire to have?

  • Short-term Situations or Experiences: Vacations, Adventures, Concerts, Hobbies ... What do you aspire to do or try?

  • A feeling: confidence, freedom, attractiveness... Who do you aspire to be?

If you can think it and feel, and it's meant to be yours, then it WILL be yours.

Make sure to craft an intention, desire, vision or goal that is ...


Our manifestation process begins when we get clear on our desires. We don’t have to do anything, we don’t have to act on the desire, we just have to get clear on it. This will automatically begin to draw this thing toward us - this is the power of our energy field.

Being as laser-focused, direct and detailed as possible with what you want helps narrow the energetic vibration of your desire.

For some this specificity will be tied to the intricate details - the full sensory experience, the exact timeline, and any stipulations or constraints. For others, it will be more about the broader, abstract vision - the final end goal.

Regardless, it's imperative to nail down the larger motivation and meaning behind your desires.

Remember, it's not your job to figure out the route, path or journey, just the final destination: freedom, love, abundance. Your WHY will determine your HOW.

After you've narrowed EXACTLY what you desire to have, be, or do then ask yourself deeper questions for gaining clarity .

  • What brings you joy and makes you feel in flow?

  • Where do you want to be in your life 1 month, 3 months, 1 year, 3 years from now?

  • How do you want to feel with what you have or who you are? Consider all senses!

  • When do you want to achieve your specific goals?

  • How can you go about achieving your goals?

And what if you don’t know what you want?

Then simply ask the universe to manifest you as your sacred highest self: the truest, healthiest, happiest, wisest, most powerful and most authentic version of YOU.

Ask the universe to remove barriers to your growth and ascension - yours fears, doubts and insecurities, timelines. As the universe to support your BEING and BECOMING, not in your desiring/wanting, which come from the false-self/ego.


  • RELEVANT to the highest good, your larger sacred purpose, your calling.

  • PROVIDING growth, impact, connection, service, and solutions for your self or others.

  • ALIGNED with your core values and guiding principles

  • CONNECTED to your true self- all parts of your character (mind, body, spirit)

  • REFLECTIVE of your heart's desire

  • FULFILLING to you on a soul-level

  • ORIGINATING in intuition, communicated by inner voice/ inner knowing

  • ROOTED in desires of the higher self (separate from the needs of control, safety, or approval)


The sky is the limit so go ahead and Dream BIG!

If your vision seems too grandiose "excessive" "unrealistic" "impractical" "illogical" "irresponsible" or downright "delusional" then it probably means you're doing it right. :) These labels are based on your past conditioning or current circumstances, NOT your actual future potential. Have the audacity to ask for what you REALLY want, deep down.

Not to say you should throw all reason out the window- but you should absolutely fantasize. Let your heart (your higher self!) guide you in your visioning, NOT your mind. Setting seemingly impossible goals raises the frequencies to those in alignment with your greatest version of success.

If you're feeling uncomfortable or guilty for asking "too much", just remember that we manifest from our energy, not from need. That's why a mindset of abundance is so important.


Your desire has to really light you up and provide you with energy, excitement and meaning!

Can you, with the utmost confidence, state your desire? Does it feel like a certainty, a sure thing? Is it something you're willing to sacrifice and fight for?

If you are not able to boldly state your intention outloud, to yourself or others, then you're probably not truly ready to receive it. Your biggest fear/worst case scenario is still overpowering your fantasy/best case scenario so you need to continue the work in clarifying, aligning, and believing.

Before moving forward with your manifestation, you must first decide that success is INEVITABLE. Make the choice that, no matter what- you WILL achieve happiness and fulfillment.

This mindset is essential because it will help you move forward regardless of what challenges come along.

Successful manifestors aren't necessarily smarter, stronger, or luckier than others. They simply have a commitment to their values, desires, and dreams - and most importantly the gumption to keep going even in the face of adversity.

“You get in life what you have the courage to ask for.”

Oprah Winfrey


So, Exactly HOW will you achieve your goals? It's a joint effort between the universe and YOU, also known as the


Once your desire is clarified, it's time to communicate it to Source and Spirit as clearly as possible. Activate spirit energy and signal that your intention is real and truthful by inviting the universe into guidance, support and co-creation with you.

There are several ways to confidently state your intentions: imprinting them into your subconscious mind, but also inviting the contributions of your spirit team.

Your spirit team can be

  • Divine Light

  • Divine Love

  • Divine Source

  • Divine Mother

  • Deities (such as Deva, Gaia, Pan, Apollo, and Selena)

  • Saints

  • Archangels (such as Michael)

  • Ancestors

  • Your Highest Self

  • Any Celestial Beings or Lightworkers of the purest, highest frequencies of service

Whatever and whoever you believe in, visualize and FEEL their energetic presence all around you, and extending far and wide.

Choose one that resonates most, or try them all. The most important part is to passionately, whole-heartedly believe the words as you write them, speak them or hear them.


This could be meditation, reiki, or a MAP Coning...Whatever you call the communication with a higher being is your choice. But the idea is to be still and quiet enough that you can connect with your spirit team and ask for their guidance, wisdom and protection. So you're not asking them for the manifestation itself, but for the clarity in how you can get you closer on your own. Similarly, you're asking them to remove all obstacles and interferences in your way.. This psychic "surgery" requires stillness and presence and during it or soon afterwards you're likely to receive important 'downloads',- key clues, answers and signs will be steps forward. To confirm your ask, extend an offering or gift of appreciation.

Please send your divine love and light, peace and protection, harmony and healing.

I allow and receive this love and light, peace and protection, harmony and healing.

I ask for your guidance and wisdom, especially in regard to _________________"

I ask for _____. of your time, leaving me in safety and security

I thank you whole heartedly


Writing, scripting, drawing and speaking your wishes is one of the most important steps in manifestation because Words are powerful holders of energy. To use them is to literally cast spells and create your desires into existence! Write to the Universe, or your Future Self about all that you've accomplished, what. you have and what you've become.

Remember to always phrase things in the PRESENT tense, claiming them here and now! You want to attract your manifestation in this moment, not in the imaginary or hypothetical future. Avoid speaking intentions of "I will" or "I hope" Instead try...

I AM..... I FEEL.... I HAVE


Write what you'd like to manifest DAILY to program your subconscious pathways so that it feels like a certain reality.

  • 369 Method: three times in the morning, six times in the afternoon, and nine times in the evening.

  • 555 Method: 55 times for 5 days, or 5 times for 55 days.


Create visuals such as graphics and depictions of your big dreams with lists, mindmaps, grids, flow charts, collages, spreadsheets, or goal trees and place them where you see them regularly!


To set a powerful intention is to be open to the concept of “this, OR something even better.” It’s so common to get caught up in a specific outcome, person, or place but unfortunately this closes us off to the many other limitless possibilities available. When you are open to anything that manifests into your reality as a blessing, life becomes more connected, meaningful and engaged. In a red envelope placed under your doormat or pillow: "I welcome my true desires here within the terms and timeline that is for the greatest good."


Instead of writing a to-do list for your week, write a Manifestation List. It's essentially the same thing, but the energy and intention is entirely different because it invites in the support of universe, asking for motivation, clarity and for obstacles. to fall away or opportunities to arrive.

"I Expect Good News Today. Today is my new Favorite Day."


Your ability to manifest is not a random coincidence. It is a product of your energetic frequency, which is determined by your

1) CONSCIOUS CHOICES - mindset and attitudes

2) CONSCIOUS ACTIONS - lifestyle choices and behaviors.

When you pair your words with holistic Systems and Spells you strengthen your vision with even greater energies, which transcend both the physical and spiritual realm.

The following manifestation tools are helpful in dissolving subconscious blockages, which can help you feel more centered and aligned. Some of these practices will resonate with you more than others, and that's ok. Try them all and stick with the ones that align the most.

"Act as if. Feel as though. This is manifestation."

J. Mike Fields


Honoring where you are right now is the gateway for you to activate whatever next level you are ready to experience. In other words, you have to come into vibrational alignment with what you want BEFORE you can have it. This means allowing yourself to feel loved, wealthy, and safe and healthy even if the conditions that you think are necessary to feel that aren't yet present.

If you are struggling to let go of this control, these stipulations, then you need to ask yourself. what beliefs you have that make them so important. Work on releasing those attachments and exploring and practicing what it feels like to already have your desire. Inevitably and magically your external environment will start to reflect that.


  • "The Victim" - feeling resistance or powerlessness, making excuses, losing focus

  • "The Sloth" - feeling detached or depressed, disorganized, inconsistent focus and efforts

  • "The Wannabe" - feeling anxious or rushed, taking inconsistent, misaligned or uninspired action

  • "The Winner" - feeling in flow and balancing giving with receiving and co-creation, attuned to sacred rhythms and divine timing, detached from the outcome,


Your Human Design type can reveal your core energy, your aura, your strategy and authority - what process, speed and rhythm is most true and natural to you. Essentially- how you manifest best, and how you can create a life that is aligned and abundant, allowing you to feel the most alive, purposeful, and connected.

Studying Human Design and astrological natal charts reminds us that we each came here with a unique blueprint - a very unique frequency that allows you to manifest in a very unique way. When you align with your signature vibration, then everything starts to make sense and fall into place. No more anger, frustration, resentment, disappointment. Once you align with your core energy and your soul's purpose you automatically shift into feeling more open, relaxed and receptive. And from that place… abundance flows.

  • Manifestors: The frequency of Peace

  • Generators: The frequency of Satisfaction

  • Projectors: The frequency of Success

  • Reflectors: The frequency of Surprise

Within these 4 aura types, you also have two different manifestation types!

  • Specific / Active Manifestor: Thrives in the intricate details, descriptions and visualizations. Must trust self/intuition!

  • General / Passive Manifestor: Thrives in the broader abstract vision and overall essence. Must trust the universe!


Journaling, free-form writing or contemplation can help you understand what is truly meant for you, and to uncover what may be holding you back internally and externally. In this private medium, you can be truly transparent and honest. There is nothing to hide and no one to judge. Go deep about your fears and negative emotions and write until you can't write anymore. Then make sure to FORGIVE and release yourself from whatever you've written.


Dwell on the most calming, comforting and reassuring thoughts you can to crowd out any based in stress or worry. The vibrational frequency of relaxation and loving kindness is one of pure freedom and abundance. With a regular meditation practice, your brain and body eventually become "re-programmed" to that same energetic state. Connect with your heart portal so that you can hear what it's telling you- what is truly meant for you. In this divine place we can download visions, impulses and instant knowings.

As you think you vibrate. As you vibrate you attract.

Abraham Hicks


Many of us have been manifesting wrong. We focus on the energetics of our visualizations but not those of the embodiment in real-time.

  • Stop viewing your desired reality in the future, using language of "when,if," etc. Instead, strive to "live in the end" - as in, live your life day to day as if your desire is a reality NOW. In that energy, you don't desire or question it anymore because you already have it.

  • Manifestation starts in the mind, but spreads in the body. Activate every cell, muscle and bone. Channelling abundance in your body should feel warm, tingly, aroused, ALIVE! Exist in the state of already having what you desire! See yourself with what you want as already yours, making it a full-spectrum, sensory experience.

  • Keep your eye on the prize! Focus on the buzz of excitement, not the dampening of fear. Focus on the possibility of what happens when it all works out, when all the things go right. Live in that high vibe feeling of enthusiasm and joy! Also, focus on the process, the becoming- rather than giving your attention to "I want this, or that". Instead, ask yourself "What version of myself already has this and what does that person's daily mindset and actions look like?”


It's beneficial to exist in a magical and endlessly creative "5D" world, where there are no rules or limitations! Live with the same energy as if you're your own fantasy character in a video game- invincible, all powerful, admired by all. It's impossible to know what will actually unfold, how or when you'll manifest. It can be fun and inspiring to brainstorm the possibilities, but it's even better to just leave it all up to the magic of Source!


Letting go of control and expectations is the ultimate high-vibe gesture. One way to embody the art of "Softening your Desire" is to make a list of "cons"- things that are less than ideal about achieving your goal, and perhaps why you'd prefer to stay in the status quo. This might seem counter-productive/intuitive but it really does help you ground instead of cling, hyper-focus or obsess.


Typically we try to change our life circumstances by seeking and striving, chasing achievement and productivity....

  • hustling

  • laboring

  • fixing

  • controlling

  • gripping

  • forcing

Unfortunately this Yang, masculine energy usually results in burnout, exhaustion, depression, or depletion and can actually block you from achieving what you want in life. ⁣⁣⁣⁣Instead try to embody more of the Yin passive energy which is about patience and trust, waiting to receive:

  • openning

  • reflecting

  • imagining

  • relaxing

  • waiting

  • surrendering

Similarly, instead of always seeking, wanting, coveting, desiring something you don't yet have, embrace the energy of

  • celebrating

  • appreciating

  • worshipping

  • blessing

as if you already have it! From this place, you become a magnet for miracles, attracting whatever you want with barely any effort.

We receive what we ARE, not what we want.



Make it a practice to commune with nature and celebrate the earth's cycles, seasons, stars and plants, which holds the highest frequency of energy available. Strengthen your intention even more by incorporating ceremonies with the five Elements, the five Senses, and your own Sacred Spaces. These acts saturate our subconscious and help to get our headspace of desire.

So many get caught up in learning the "next best" technique or programs to manifestation when in reality, it's about looking in the mirror and undergoing an inner transformation. Remember, these are all just tiny pieces of the manifesting puzzle. They are there to support your journey, but the real power comes from within YOU.

"It's not about what you do, but who you are while doing it."

Melanie Ann Layer


Don't forget to thank Spirit and Source, the universe and your spirit guides for all that you have (more than enough), and all that you'll be (more than you can imagine), where you're at and where you're going (exactly where you're supposed to). Gratitude is SO important in the manifestation process! It's the ultimate amplifier.

  • Capture your current blessings in writing, using the bagua template as a guide.

  • Reframe the things you "have" to do into things you "GET TO" do

  • Extend an offering or contribution to Mother Nature

"Gratitude for all that we have leads to abundance in all we desire."


When you're tuned into Source energy you'll feel the BEST version of yourself:

  • powerful

  • peaceful

  • purposeful

  • engaged

  • ecstatic

  • enthusiastic

  • invincible

  • invigorated

  • grateful

In other words, your soul will feel grounded and balanced, but at the same time bursting with energy! You'll be living your purpose and in complete FLOW:

  • Taking inspired courageous action, effortlessly - There will be nothing else you'd rather be doing!

  • Giving and expending energy only to the activities, people or opportunities that support your desires

  • Focusing on the bigger picture and no longer sweating the small stuff

Synergetic Spaces - Magnetize, Manifest

When you are truly ONE with Source, then you are your full embodiment of Yang and Yin, masculine and feminine, light and dark. In this consciousness you can co-exist alongside "negativity" (darkness, shadows) in harmony and peace. In this place, fear is still natural and present, but it's not primary. It no longer has the same limiting power over you.

So shine your light and don’t worry about the opposing forces. You can be ONE with anything you desire.

What’s meant for you will always feel natural, calm and clear - not forced, chaotic or confused.

Congratulations- you're halfway there!

Check out Part 2 to learn about the second half of the manifestation process.


Erin is a certified feng shui consultant, energy healer, wellness coach and holistic growth strategist.

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